Using our brains by paying attention to our thoughts can improve our sexual experiences. When we think thoughts that bring us joy like I love the way my lover is touching me. I feel tingly. I am loved and respected. Thoughts similar to the ones right before this sentence help us connect to our lover. Thoughts that increase our feeling of security increase our ability to relax also increasing out ability to have great orgasms. Good Luck have Great Orgasms! Blessings, I Love YOU, :~) <3